Well, I finally decided that over a year is too long to leave that journal up...
I still have no real interest in actually telling people about whats going on in my life since I personally don't think anyone would really care. Nor does anyone need to, we all life our own lives so theres no need to have another one to read up on.
However, I am kinda curious as to what other peoples opinion's are on certain things. I know that this idea can easily fall apart, for reasons that I'm sure I will bring up at a certain point if this ever goes anywhere. But oh well, everything is worth a shot once and who knows, I may actually be more active on this for once if it does go anywhere.
Are we predisposed to feel bad more than we are to feel good?
This is a question I've pondered for sometime. Please lets not go into how EMO this sounds, but just consider what it means. It just seems like we as people have a tendency to dwell on the bad far more and appreciate all the good in our lives. For example, lets say we were beaten by our father and later our parents divorce and we are separated from our father. We are far more likely to remember all the bad that our father did, all the beatings, all the drinking maybe, all the gambling most likely. But this same father may have done plenty of good as well. Maybe they always showed up to our basketball games, maybe they took us fishing every weekend, maybe they gave the best gifts on our birthday. So why is it, that if asked, we would only bring up that he was a bad person? Is it because the fact there was a divorce justifies the idea that they were a bad person, as in something like a divorce confirms that this is who they were? Or is it because that we have a tendency to remember the bad faster and longer then all the other things?
Just try asking people about how certain things went or how they feel on certain things, usually people will add far more details or speak far more passionately on things they dislike than anything else. So why is this? Not only does this usually apply to opinions and such, but it almost seems biological in a way. Consider something like drugs, many drugs make us feel a degree of happiness or euphoria that is virtually unobtainable in normal existence. So with this the case wouldn't it be logical that is our brain wanted us to be happy, then we would either just continue to feel the same good feeling with no changes, or it would adapt to attempt to deaden many of the bad side effects that this drugs cause? Instead our mind appears to punish us for attempting to feel this level of pleasure. Often people need more of the drug to get the same high, and often the first time is the best. Often it seems like the side effects become worse too, like a hangover or the crash seems to only become worse, its never something people get used to, and it never becomes easier. Or consider something like a hangover or a crash, often in comparison to the high, the crashing and its effects far outweigh the high. A high that lasts for 30 minutes is likely to result in some sort of crash that last far longer than 30 minutes. So why is this?
This is a trend that seems to come up almost everywhere too. Consider the News, we see far more crime and tragic events on the News than anything else. Additionally, we flock to such News than anything joyous. Do rumors about good things ever circulate about a person? Do tabloids usually feature cover page stories about good events? It almost seems as if talking about good things is bad as well. If someone brings up how great something they made is they often come off as bragging or too proud.
The solution I have toyed with the most on this issue is that it is more a biological factor than anything. Just like the drug example consider it in terms of natural selection. Lets say that there are two bird, ummmm two geese. And these two geese live on a lake that has never seen long term human activity before, in fact there are hardly any predators at this lake. Now one of the geese is far more friendly, or accepting of other creatures and does not spook that easily. The other goose is jittery and paranoid and cautious of everything and will take flight at any slightest thing. Now lets say for the first time hunters arrive at this lake. The one goose stays in its spot at their appearance and is shot, the other goose manages to take flight quick enough to avoid being shot continues to live.
Does this same principal work for this idea? Do we biologically remember bad things more often in the hopes that we will not experience them again? Is this trend more genetic then anything if that is the case? Do most people remember most bad things because they also tend to not make those mistakes again? In the example above with the birds, if those traits were genetic, then the bird that flew away is the one that is going to continue to live and make more birds that are genetically more easily spooked. Maybe remembering the bad things and being predisposed to being more interested in the bad serves some sort of beneficial purpose? Maybe being more interested in bad things isn't a flaw but a way of learning from others mistakes?
Going off of this, lets imagine that people did not do this. Now lets say that there is a man and he finds a home for himself in which he is happy. However, there is one flaw with his home, lets say... ummm the roof leaks. If this man is not predisposed to feeling the bad more than the good, would he ever need to address the roof? If you are completely content with your life, would you bother trying to do anything to make it better. If you thought you had learned all you needed to, would your mind be as open to learning more? If this man can live with a leaking roof, then wouldn't he? But no, the roof drives at him, it wakes him up in the night, its in the back of his mind when he is driving to work, it seeps into his dreams until he finally decides to fix that roof. Its only because he remembers the roof more than the fact that everything else is perfect because its the one thing thats wrong. So does this mean that being more likely to dwell on the bad also is helpful in the way that is prevents us from being content? Is it because we believe that in a perfect world we still think things could be better that makes us strive to try harder? Is it because we are not easily contented that we continue to strive to make things better for ourselves, others, and the world?
So I guess in the end it comes down to, either im wrong, as usual, and this is not a general trend and I am totally wrong in what I believe and my possible explanations. Or this is a learned behavior, in which because so many people do it. ( I could spend more time explaining how it could be learned if someone wanted me to consider it) Or it is some sort of biological or genetic related behavior? Also are there other reasons for such behavior, or should there be more added to the explanation?
In the end, I am not sure, and I hope everything discussed here will never have an definite answer, but I do think such questions are worth thinking about. And don't be afraid to make a large post, I will try to respond to certain comments or thoughts, but I would hope this would become a discussion involving many and not just me relating to all the comments, this I would hope is larger than just I.
Anyway, I am curious as to how this will go over, if it doesn't go over well then that is fine, I just won't bother, but I will try to give it a few chances before making that decision.
Also as a sort of aside, if anyone would like to correct this discussion convention-wise, please do so, I would like to become a better writer, just try to be nice about it, Im a person too and I would like the main discussion to be about the topic and not about how much I suck grammatically.
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